It's All About The Attitude

I think it is safe to say that we all experience things differently. I also think it is safe to say that each bride before a wedding feels some sort of stress or another. This may be an illogical assumption, however it is my fallacious fancy and it helps me from thinking that I may be slightly crazy. Like putting me in a straight jacket, shipping me off to Shutter Island, because I cannot make one more decision about hurricane candleholders vs. tea light candleholder, crazy.

Being an event planner and previously working on weddings in college, I have had my fair share of exposure to ideas and fantasies of what I wanted my own wedding to look like. I dreamed of always getting married outdoors and believe it or not, in Santa Barbara. I have been a closet subscriber to Martha Stewart's Weddings since it first published. I love events. I love the look of them, I love the design aspects, andI love the way people react when they all come together. I love the unusual; I love the out of the box thinking. I love the ambiance that something as little as 'up lighting' can create. However, it is one thing to plan another bride's wedding and it is another to plan your own. In my delusional fantasy, I did not think any of the tiny details would apply when it came to my own wedding. Boy was I wrong. As I sit here, on a Sunday morning, before Church, I am frantically looking up napkin folds and approving designs on my menu cards. I remind myself to constantly breathe and I constantly remind myself that it's not the wedding day that makes a marriage.

I once had somebody tell me in college something that has still stuck with me..."In the grand scheme of things, does (it) really matter?" These tasks, napkin folds, seating charts, schematics, and all the overwhelming decisions that must be made, I can see how losing perspective of what a wedding really is, is easy to do. Josh and I have vowed though to remember how the little things in the long run don't really matter. We constantly reflect and discuss how our marriage is more important than the day. The day is just a celebration to mark the start of our lives together. We are excited to build that life together and we know that is all that really matters. We plan on growing old with one another, yes, like Rose from the Titanic old and enjoy life, have children, love others, and be used however God wants us to be used.

"Grow old along with me!
The best is yet to be."
Robert Browning

Wedding Accommodations

The day is fast approaching when my solicitors phone calls will no longer start 'Is Ms. Van Woodenshnigen available?' Yipee! I cannot wait to be an Allen...and I cannot wait for the wedding festivities to begin. For those of you looking for accommodations the weekend of the wedding, we, and by we I mean my mother, has compiled a list of special rates, blocked rooms and other misc. sleeping arrangement goodness. So here it goes:

Hotels In Santa Barbara

Pepper Tree Inn bestwesternpeppertreeinn.com
(800) 338-0030
We have blocked 5 rooms and an additional 5 will be blocked after these are filled. Mention Allen/Van Woudenberg (Van Wow-den-burg for those of you who aren't dutch) wedding for the group discount. These rooms will be released 30 days prior to the wedding
King $137.81
2 Doubles $137.81

Mason Beach Inn santabarbaramasonbeachinn.com
(805) 962-3203
Wedding Rate:
2 Queen $129.00
1 King $119.00
Suite $179.00

Hotel Marmonte hotelmarmonte.com
(800) 643-1994
We have blocked 10 rooms and 30 days before the wedding they will be released. There is a minimum stay of 2 nights. Mention Allen/Van Woudenberg wedding for the discount.
$179.00

Franciscan Inn franciscaninn.com
(805) 963-8845
We have a wedding rate so mention Allen/Van Woudenberg
2 Queens $180.00
1 Queen $140.00
1 King $150.00
2 Beds $180.00
There are also various suites available upon request

Additional Hotels that do not offer discount wedding rates but are within a 2 mile radius of the Canary (click on the name of the hotel and it will direct you towards their website)

Aviana Inn

Sandpiper Lodge

Hotel Oceana Santa Barbara

Fess Parker's Double Tree

Fiesta Inn

Holiday Inn-Hotel Virginia

Hotel Santa Barbara

Joshua, myself and some of our guests/friends will be up in Santa Barbara Thursday through Sunday and will have various activities planned like a BBQ, lawn bowling, etc. Feel free to come join us at any time! As the wedding approaches, we will have more details on those events. However, if you are in need of more options in lodging, do not hesitate to let one of us know and we would be more than happy to point you in the right direction!

Hoop Dreams

It is uncommon for a girl to love college basketball as much as I do (besides you, Ashley Woods). So more than often I get asked the question, "Why do you like college basketball so much?" Well, as I sit here, in enjoyment, watching the Tarheels get spanked by Wake Forest, I came up with a few good reasons:

I love that the game is exciting, full of history and tradition.

I love there is always an underdog

I love that there is a Cinderella team that surprises us every year like the 2006 George Mason Patriots beating North Carolina, Connecticut and Michigan State to make it to the Final Four.

I love that there is a playoff system. A tournament to decide the winner, not 15 different bowl games.

I love Bill Walton's hair, the Candy-striped pants of the Hoosiers, and UCLA's Joe Bruin (yes, I gave UCLA some props). Speaking of UCLA...

I LOVE John Wooden. I had the honor to meet and spend the entire evening with him. You will learn more in 5 hours with that man then most people will in a lifetime. No exaggeration. He also told me I reminded him of his wife, which is one of the greatest compliments I have ever received and started my research into his coaching career.

I love the 1996 Kentucky Wildcats. I love that their roster was so rich it could have posed as an NBA team. Antoine Walker, Walter McCarty, Ron Mercer, Derek Anderson, and Tony Delk...sweet.

I love that James Worthy, Sam Perkins and Michael Jordan were all on a team at the same time and it wasn't the NBA All Star team.

I love the Kansas Jayhawks. I love the pure game they play.

I love sanctuaries like the Allen Fieldhouse, Cameron Indoor Stadium, and the Palestra.

I love that in any other sport, you will not find anybody like Dick Vitale.

I love the avid fans that create a menacing foe for visiting rivals.

I love the exciting hum that starts right before tip-off.

I love that I was born in March and think that is no coincidence.

I love the look of the polished hardwood floors that sparkle, a court painted school colors, line with names like Nell and John Wooden.

I love that schools pay homage to legendary coaches.

A daughter of a former basketball coach, I grew up around the game. I was even a cheerleader (don't judge) for the game in high school...I liked it a lot, but I never loved it as much as I do now. I can remember the day and the game I went to that sparked my obsession. it was Saturday, January 12, 2002. UCLA v. Kansas at Pauley Pavilion. It was the crowd, the players, and the coaches. It definitely was not Steve Lavin's hair, but roy Williams' coaching. It was the 'back to basics' principles and playing style of Nick Collison, Kirck Hinrich, Wayne Simien, Aaron Miles and Keith Langford...they were all, in the words of Dick Vitale, "PTPer's."

And that is why I love college basketball and think you should too.

Loss

Today I was reminded by an extremely tragic situation, how short our life is here on Earth. We are not guaranteed a tomorrow, a next week, or even a next year and we are not promised we will live a life without difficult times and escape from tragedy. However, if we go through these difficult times and tragedy while knowing God, we can react to them with a different perspective and with a strength that is not our own. He tells us the He can be "our refuge and strength, and ever-present help in times of trouble." He is bigger than all the problems that can hit us, and we are not left alone to deal with them.

"The LORD is my rock, my fortress and my deliverer; my God is my rock, in whom I take refuge. He is my shield and the horn of my salvation, my stronghold." Psalm 18:2

The Best Way To Spread Christmas Cheer Is Singing Loud For All To Hear!

Christmas always starts the first week of December for me. However, this year was a little different. Instead of planning and orchestrating the usual 9-13 Holiday parties for my clients, I just had to attend all 9-13 of them. Which, if you are in marketing or sales, means you are still working. So by the time Christmas rolls around, I am beyond exhausted. But there is nothing like spending quality time with family to re-energize you and remind us of what Christmas is all about.

Josh and I spent Dec. 23rd with his family at Morton's steakhouse. The next night, Christmas Eve, is traditionally spent at the Lang household where about 30 people gather.
We all spent the night so we could wake up Christmas morning and open presents. Josh and I then quickly went to our new place to open up our gifts to one another. (At this time I would like to give mad props to my husband-to-be for being the best present giver ever. This man picked me out clothes that I LOVED. And if you know me, that is no small feat. I'd like to give him a virtual high five since he was already handsomely rewarded with a kiss). Then it was off to Papa Dick and Grandma Charlotte Allen's house to spend some time Christmas day with the grandparents.


Brooklyn, Kendall, Maryn

Kendall and Josh
Josh, Em, Maryn, Luke

The day after Christmas was spent at the Van Woudenberg house where we crammed in 16 people (including 7 nieces and nephews-Ashley, Katelyn, Luke, Kendall, Maryn, Brooklyn, and Austin), a ton of presents, a ginormous amount of food, a LONG game of Settlers of Catan, even more food, and a Lakers game. By the next day we were all spent, but couldn't be happier than to have been able to spend time with those we truly love and who truly make us happy and blessed.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Years...we are off to Mammoth to celebrate!

Home Sweet Home

Here is a sneak peak of the improvements Josh and I have made to our home so far!

Downstairs Staircase After

Entrance After

Entrance/Bottom of Staircase Before

Bottom of Staircase After

View from the Top of the Staircase towards the Entrance Before

View Downstairs after

Stairs Before

Stairs After

Hallway Before

Hallway After

Master Closet Before

Master Closet After

(Part of) Master Bedroom Before

(Part of) Master Bedroom After

Hallway towards spare bedrooms before

Hallway towards spare bedrooms after

Whitney's bedroom Before

Whitney's Bedroom After
...now if we can only get her to come visit

Extra Bed #2 Before

Extra Bed #2 After

Extra Bed #3 Before

Extra Bed #3 After

We are so grateful we were able to purchase a house and look forward to all the other improvements we are about to make!

I'm Full...of Thanksgiving

Even in 2009, the toughest economic and emotional trying year for our world, there's much to appreciate on this day of Thanksgiving. We appreciate the company of family and friends and the fact that Joshua and I's immediate family was given the opportunity to spend Thanksgiving together. I am thankful that we have the capacity to think optimistically that in a year that our nation was faced with many trials, uncertainty and misfortunes that we know that things will get better. I am thankful that all of our new challenges we are given daily are met and resolved with nothing less than help from our Lord. Joshua and I are thankful for the love and support we receive from our family, friends and one another. We are thankful for answered prayers and that we were given each other...we CANNOT WAIT to be married! We are thankful we get to start an awesome journey together.

Now that Thanksgiving is over, we get to embark on my favorite time of the year...Christmas! I can't wait for Christmas decorations to throw up all over my house! Josh and I are having our date night tomorrow night at Roger's Gardens in Corona Del Mar for their Christmas displays!